A Short History of Men and Women

cerita ini tentang wanita dan pria dari asal muasal nya..pproximately 250,000 years ago our species had evolved into what are now called "modern humans" who walked erect on two legs, made tools, and used language. Scientifically they are called Homo Sapiens and that means "wise humans." They lived in nomadic bands of 20 to 30 hunters and gatherers who did little more than survive and breed. They were a hardy and horny species. Their successful traits for surviving and breeding repeated over time became embedded in their DNA, which was passed on to today's men and women. (Yes, today we still have some caveman and cavewoman in us!)

By about 30,000 years ago, our ancestors had greatly increased in number and had evolved in body and brain very close to the physical likeness we are today. Very few physical changes have occurred in human bodies and brains over the past 30,000 years. (Some women complain that some men's behaviors have not improved much since then either!)

So here we are, still using a body and brain design that is approximately 30,000 years old! This body is designed primarily to survive and breed.

Why Men and Women Evolved With Differences

The primary reason for the differences between men and women today is due to how our ancestors lived and survived in prehistoric times. Ancient men were the hunters who concentrated on ways to effectively stalk, kill and transport home the catch-of-the-day for the family group or tribe. Hunting required creativity, cleverness, patience, and physical endurance. However, it did not require much talking or interaction with other men at a personal level. Men did not need to develop the personal communication and relationship skills that women did.

Success for a man back then was evident mostly in how well he survived as a hunter. Good hunters were very important for the group's survival. The best hunters were greatly respected and valued, and that earned them the power to control the group. This rewarding position at the top of the group came with valuable privileges.

In the ancient past, achieving high status as a great hunter and provider for the group got a man the best of what was available in the group. That usually meant he had first choice of food, comfort, and all the women for as much sex as he wanted. That was the best life a man could hope for in those bleak times. (Some guys think that sounds pretty good even today!)

Therefore, men were very competitive and competed for the rewarding position at the top of their group hierarchy to get the privileges. That competitiveness is still strong in men's DNA but is expressed today in different ways than hunting.

Most of today's men compete and and try to demonstrate their superiority by achieving, problem solving, and/or bragging. These are attempts at status building in men. Unconsciously most men work hard to prove themselves as the greatest hunter so they can get the privileges that come with high status.

These ancient characteristics in men for seeking high status are still operating in the deep old part of men's brain. Fortunately, the newer outer layers of the brain are adapted to learning new ways of behaving. Most men today learn to be socialized and behave with good manners. Well-socialized men still compete for high status but in accordance with their culture's unwritten rules. Most often, high status is demonstrated today with large amounts of money and what money can buy, like a big house and luxury car. (And yes, often there still are a lot of women and sex.)semoga bermanfaat yah